E31: 3 Steps To Escape The Self Doubt & Shame Spiral

Ever feel like you're riding an emotional rollercoaster in your business? One minute you're on top of the world, the next... you're spiraling into a pit of self-doubt.  Sound familiar? 

Here's the truth bomb: Even the most successful entrepreneurs grapple with these moments. But what if I told you that these struggles could be your secret weapon? Crazy concept i know!

In this episode of the Purposeful Powerhouse Podcast, we're diving deep into: 

• The Self-Love Secret: Discover how to alchemize your moments of doubt into pure gold for your business and soul. 
• Breaking the Pattern: Uncover the hidden roots of your self-sabotage and learn how to rewire your entrepreneurial DNA for sustainable success. 
• Your Inner Compass: Master the art of asking yourself the right questions to tap into your innate wisdom and skyrocket your decision-making power. 

Ready to transform your inner critic into your biggest cheerleader?  This isn't just another pep talk. It's your personal roadmap to unshakeable confidence and next-level success. 

Don't let another day slip by feeling stuck or overwhelmed, your future self is begging you to listen to this episode.  Tune in now and unlock the powerhouse within you!

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Please find the show notes below. Since it is a transcription there may be spelling errors and/or weird grammar. Ignore that and enjoy!

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Hello and.

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Welcome to a movement of people who care.

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So much about how they.

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Feel that they make time for themselves.

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Every day. I'm the leader of this movement and the host of this podcast, and my name is Meghan Nolan. I am a wellness coach for purpose.

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Driven Entrepreneurs and women on a mission, and I am all about.

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Helping you to be healthy, happy and sustainably successful. So let's jump in to today's episode that will help you to do that. HELO And welcome back to another episode of the Purposeful Powerhouse Podcast. Well, look at this. I feel like the universe is giving me a really prime opportunity to do what I asked of you last week to practice what I teach.

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And last week in our episode, we were talking about core values and how it's important to know what they are and to live into them. And look at this. I've been given the opportunity to share on several of my which are authenticity and integrity and integrity is doing what we say we're going to do even when it's uncomfortable.

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Authenticity is a truthful expression of ourself, even if it's not the most glorious, shiniest, sparkly assertion of our self. And I don't know about you lately. Whatever time in the year that you're watching this or listening to this. But in the weeks that I've been having over the last few weeks, I've been in my feels like in a lab and in my feels, I've been in the question mark of what the actual fruitcake am I doing here?

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What am I doing? Why does this feel so hot right now? I should be further ahead. What is even happening? Do I have what it takes? Like, what is the point of any of it? I'm going in. That's whirlwind and it's an interesting place to be. Self-doubt. And the reality is, is that I can happens to me a lot.

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I'm not going to lie. And that's why I wanted to have this conversation is because, you know, we see a lot on social media. Everyone's like that that the sharing may Wiggins which of course we love to celebrate wins but the reality is there's a commonality between all of us we're human. And the way that humans are wired is for survival.

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And when we're stretching yourself and you're putting yourself out there and you're doing new things that maybe you haven't done for and trying to figure it out and all the things it can really easily lend to stress and confusion and wanting to have it all figured out and having this pressure, whether it's an external pressure for a lot of people right there, societal pressure, familial pressure.

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And in my case, it's internal pressure. And you might be able to relate to that because I find that a lot of entrepreneurs are very high achieving, very action oriented, goal oriented, tending to be pretty naturally good at things. Most things you just try. You're like, Oh, I'm pretty good that, you know, and going out there and having this expectation of, Oh, this is what I want it to look like, and this is what, you know, my dream life is like, my vision is like and, you know, feeling like we have to have it all together with our work and our body and our social life and our, you know, in our relationships and, you

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know, our creativity and our hobbies. And it's like it's a lot. It's says a lot. And I'm starting to recognize areas of my life where I am noticing changes, right? I'm 45. I'm noticing changes in my body, am noticing changes in my energy level. I can see changes in my skin and then just recognizing that, yeah, things are changing and and wondering at this place or I'm feeling so much and feel like I'm really experiencing these beautiful recognition of the work that I've put in, of what I've created, of, you know, how the Rising Vibe movement is gaining momentum and all of those things.

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And I'm wondering what to focus on next, where to go, what I want to really have as a full expression of my business. And then what seems to happen is when I'm about to stretch and when I'm about to do something new, self-doubt kicks in, asking myself all of these questions and that I just mention of Do I have what it takes or what is even happening, all of that.

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And so it's should I keep going? Should I quit? I don't even know. Right? It's so what happens is when we are in these moments of stress, whether it's internal stress, external stress, we default to self-protective mechanisms, patterns of self-sabotage that we learned as children and in the mental fitness framework that I am trained in. And then I share with my clients and my students, these are called saboteurs.

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And so these patterns tend to kick in when we are stretching ourself. And this morning I went to a coffee date with two people from my B and I chapter. So being I business networking. So we we met up for coffee and we were talking about, you know, there's three of us there, one of whom is adding a new location to his business.

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Another one is shifting from one service provision to another full expression that's really lights her up and she's not sure. And just recognizing, as we were all sharing, that there was this commonality of visionaries with this beautiful expression. But in the moment of trying to keep our head above water and just paddling our feet. Right. And and trying to keep momentum forward, but also the questioning of am I doing this right?

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What's the point of this? And the financial undertones of, oh, you know, am I is there enough money? Is this going to make money? And all of these questions that can cause and trigger a lot of stress and so as we dive into this conversation about self-doubt and maybe some of the shame and all of the opportunities that are in this potential, this possible experience, before we dive into that, just really honoring yourself.

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If you're experiencing this now, then beautiful, perfect time. But this is something to to hold on to for later because this is inevitable that we're going to have these questions and so what we want to take a look back at and start to really recognize is when we we are in this place of self-doubt and questioning ourselves and wondering what the next step is, what platform should I focus on?

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What launch mechanism should I use all of that? It's so, so important. And this is where I was, you know, repeating over and over in the conversation because, you know, they were hearing me, but they were like And so it's so important when we are in these phases of our life to have some routines and rituals and rhythms that support you as a human being because you're having a spiritual experience.

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We'll talk about that in a moment. But first and foremost, to support your physical body, because in order for you to handle this, the challenges that you're being given or the opportunities that you have or the questions or the ups and downs and the all the things it's very important that you are going back to basics and having your non-negotiables, right?

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And so that's where I'm you know this by now. I'm a huge advocate for amplifying your morning routine, using it to really ground into your body, to cultivate strength and regulate your nervous system and tap into energy of possibility and all of those things. And we talk a lot about that in the show because that's my core focus and that's the focus of Rise and Vibe.

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So having that touchpoint for yourself, because when we are in the spirals of stress and self-doubt and disbelief and feelings of unworthiness and all of that, we get very much in our head and we tend to forget you got a body. And so taking those moments, those little power pauses to really, really grounding drop in nourish yourself on every level is vital.

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Because the interesting thing about when we are stressed, we tend to self-sabotage more because that's how we're wired. And one of the ways that many of us self-sabotage is skipping our yoga, skipping our workouts, not doing our meditations, eating crappy foods because we're like, I don't have it now. And just, you know, guzzling the coffee or whatever, drinking a lot more wine, whatever it is.

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Right? And so it's so important to make that a non-negotiable. So if you need support on that, let me know. Let's talk about where this comes from and how we can begin to shift all of this, because as I mentioned, you are a spiritual being, having a human experience. And whether you realize it or not, when you got your LLC, you just got a fast track ticket to personal growth tab.

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Entrepreneurship is literally the opportunity to heal before because that's truly what it is. In order for you to become the person that has everything that you see on your vision board that you have as your goals, it's going to take an evolution of self. It's going to take a dismantling of old stories and beliefs. It's going to take shifts at the core.

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Identity level so that you are a match for those things because you don't start out that way. And I mean, you know, there's some people that like hit the hit the jackpot and they get the, you know, they go viral and their business explodes, but they're not necessarily ready for it. Right? They don't have the core beliefs. They don't have the strategies or the systems in place.

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And so there's steps along the way to help us to evolve and continue to expand. And, you know, I love that analogy of of a of a lotus like in the closed form. And it it starts to open source, open a little more petals fall away. It keeps opening, it keeps opening, but it's nourished by the the, the growth and the the transfer of energy from the ground up seeking the light, you know, getting through the mud.

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No, man, no lotus so that you can continue to expand and to grow. And so I think it's really just very, very important to remember that this is an opportunity to witness yourself. And I heard something recently that really, really landed for me in the moments of resistance. You get to practice who you say you are. And so once you've delved into your goals and your vision and you start to learn about who the version of you is that you truly want to embody and you truly want to be, that's who we get to practice being.

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And when we notice the inner friction of however it shows up, and in this case of our conversation and the self doubt and the potential feelings of discouragement and sadness and disappointment and frustration and maybe shame that come along with that potentially might be all of that. None of that a little bit that whatever we start to recognize this as an opportunity because that is a moment of contraction.

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The flower closes back up. You're the flower. Okay, so stick with me. Try to keep my analogy state straight. So we in those moments of self-doubt or contraction, it's an opportunity for us to pass. So that's the gift in the mental fitness framework. We want to learn to look at everything as a gift or an opportunity. So the gift is that this is an opportunity to see a way that we are getting hijacked by our own mind, by our own safety, by our own protective mechanism of the survival aspect of our brain or ego.

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And we get to begin to turn towards ourself and witness and feel. And so we start to take that moment of self-doubt and all of the other swirls of tight emotions around those. And it's also an opportune pity to use the tools. And if you are listening to this, you probably love, you know, yoga, tapping, breathwork, meditation, dance, massage, whatever, mirror work, whatever affirmations, journaling, maybe all of the above, maybe none of it.

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It's the opportunity to use those practices to support yourself in that moment. Because what's happening in that moment is when we start to notice that contraction. And that's the practice, right? Once we have this knowing and this knowledge, it's a practice of awareness, right? It's a practice of observing our self in this because once you've decided you have your vision, you have your goals, and you know that feeling and you're like, okay, I'm in the feeling, here we go.

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And then something happens or challenges you, or you have a disappointing launch or whatever, and you shut down. And we spiral into that negative chatter that it is that is dictated and spoken by those characters in our head, the saboteurs, the patterns of self-sabotage that are led by the judge. So the judge is worse than the inner critic.

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Not worse is deeper than the inner critic, I should say. So I don't want to judge the judge. It is that so is deeper than the inner critic because the judge judges are self judges and situation judges and the people. It's always the first one on the scene. And you know what it likes to do? Is it causes us to feel guilt and shame.

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So guilt is when we feel like we've done something wrong. Shame is when we somehow feel that we are wrong. And so what happens is if the situation isn't unfolding as you wanted it to, and then the judge is coming along and saying all sorts of negative banter and starting to use these negative emotions to keep you exactly where you are.

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Right. Because that's the function is to keep you exactly where you are in this safe space, even though it's not a happy space and it's certainly not in a, you know, uplifted vibe with the vision space. It's a contracted space because it causes you to shut down. And so what happens here is the the judge is saying these things of how it should have been this and that and the other thing.

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And then we start to feel these tighter, lower vibrational emotions of discouragement or sadness or self-doubt or what have you, then that triggers our other saboteurs. So there's nine other ways that we tend to self-sabotage. And I find in the entrepreneur community one that's really common is the hyper achiever. And so the hyper achiever in this state is like, okay, well, it's not working.

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I should try something else. I should do something else. I should go, I should try to get more subscribers. I should try to get more you more followers. I should try to do that, that, that, that and then that push energy causes even more stress. And so what tends to happen here is we begin to basically are amping up our stress response.

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So we tend to go into whatever our pattern is fight, flight freeze and so many of us will go into flight, right. Will go into the hyper achiever. Okay, what can I do? I got to make it perfect. I'm going to change it. And so then it causes even more of that type contract of constricted energy and we're shutting off the flow of possibility.

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And so then so that's more of the, you know, the fight. And then here we want to look at, okay, well, what may be for you? It's the flight. Oh, God, whatever. I don't know. I'm not going to do it anymore. And it's the avoidance, right? It's the avoidance through procrastination. It's the avoidance through perfectionism. It's the avoidance through.

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Well, yeah, I said I was going to ask my teammate to do it, but I'll just do it myself. And so we want to just look at the way we respond to these situations. And then finally, what tends to happen if we go into a a shutdown or a free state is we get into those feelings. And if the judge has been successful at trying to make us feel guilty like we should be further ahead by now, or feeling a shame that we haven't been able to achieve $10,000 in 10 seconds.

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Yeah, Then we start to spiral into these more heavier emotions and many of us are very highly sensitive and empathetic and can feel deeply empathetic beings. And so what get content to happen is we might get tripped up into these feelings of deep, deep self-doubt, self-doubt, self and sadness and confusion. And what it's doing is giving us an opportunity to witness these feelings because they're there.

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And oftentimes what's happening is that we are getting triggered back into an unfiltered emotion that happened in our childhood that we didn't get the chance to move through. So the universe is giving us an opportunity to witness this. Okay. So it's an opportunity here to witness this and to turn towards our self and love ourself and allow those emotions to be felt.

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And so for me, my judge comes along the scene and this is horrible, like brutal, okay? And it's really challenging because I have this this drive to, you know, have these incredible goals, make an incredible impact, do all of these things. And my whole achiever is strong. And then if that doesn't happen because my judge is so horrible and nasty, it triggers my victim.

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And we often hear a lot about victim mentality being this thing where it drags us down. But from this perspective of this tool set, the victim is someone who feels really deeply and gets pulled into those feelings at a deep core level. And sometimes, yes, gets gets pulled down so deeply, it feels like, you know, everything is is outside of themself and they don't have any, you know, ability to change anything.

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And that's where it can get you know, it can change a little bit. But we want to just remember that the ability to feel deeply is human. And so for me, that's what happens. And I notice this now. And so I recognize that, okay, if I'm feeling this way, I want to give myself a chance to hold space for these feelings, to allow them to be felt and to turn towards myself in a loving and kind way from my heart, not from the judging harsh voice of my of my saboteurs and my judge, but from my loving, kind, compassionate, discerning, wise self, and turn towards myself and normalize these feelings and give them a chance

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to be felt because they need to be felt. Energy is energy and motion. And so or so emotion is energy in motion. And so we want to make sure because otherwise, if we're just like bypassing them and oh my God, we just work harder and I got to do something else. And then it just pushes us through. And so when we if you're noticing yourself in these tighter moments or feeling that feeling of wanting to quit questioning everything, doubting yourself, we want to look at maybe it's the hard and heavy feelings that you want to quit, right?

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Is that the way that you're feeling? Right now is is not something that you want to sustain. And so that's you know, your brain is doing its best to highlight the fact that, you know, something is off and there's an opportunity because you're contracted, your nervous system is state in a state of contraction. And so this is an opportunity to to turn towards our self and to use the tools.

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Right. So talking to yourself, journaling, I am finding more and more that, you know, I drive and I talk to myself like I'm talking to my coach or my accountability buddy and I just talk it out because it's giving me the opportunity to process. I'm a verbal processor and so I think podcast is therapeutic for me because the thing is, is that if you have this vision and you know in your heart that this is something you really want to do and you still want to do it, it's there for you and it's calling you for it and it's pulling you forward towards it and it's drawing you forward to this evolution of self so

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that you can be in alignment of it. And, you know, I believe many other people believe, too, that when you're given a vision, the possibility is there. The reality is there that you can bring it to life if you're willing to give the vision and goals what it takes. Right. And oftentimes what it takes, because this is a process and a practice of self development and self-growth is it takes an evolution of you.

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And of course it's going to take action steps as well, But it's going to take an evolution at an identity level so that you are shifting to be the version of you that believes the same things that does the things that take the action that sees themself this way, that has the inner dialog that's learned to dial down the saboteurs and catch them in their habits, because inevitably they're going to come back because that's how human brains are wired for survival.

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And so they start to get a little sneakier and sneakier. So it's important. So we want to make sure that in these moments we're giving yourself a power pause to witness and feel and not just powering through. Because when we keep powering through is when we keep pushing and pushing and we're running on that stress, energy, frantic, frazzled, the worn out entrepreneur that sets the stage for burnout because the doubt can take us into burnout very quickly.

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If things aren't happening, we start to overwork ourself, are not taking breaks. All of that is often times the path. And I'm definitely taking the fast train over to Burnout Town on that route. And it's it's it's real. So first we want to give our chance self the chance to feel the emotions to heal that because it's a core wound that probably was triggered in childhood.

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And so we want to feel into that. How do I feel right now? I feel sad. I feel disappointed, I feel confused. I'm wondering about everything. And so we want to start to look at, well, when did I feel that before? When When was the first time I really remember feeling that way and giving yourself this opportunity to look back at that and see if it's relevant, see if it's similar, or just turning towards yourself and literally having a conversation in a really kind, compassionate way of inner parenting of I understand, you know what?

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This is really hard. You know, it's it's challenging. You're doing something that you've never done before. You are pulling something out of thin air, literally. Right. These ideas, these programs, these whatever it is that you're content, like you're creating it, you're co-creating it. And this is something new, right? And, you know, maybe it's a little harder than other things that you've tried because, you know, maybe you've just been actually really good at stuff.

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But this is something new and it's stretching you. And so it's having a different tone to your conversation and you're turning to that place within yourself that wants to be witness, that wants to be seen, that wants to be celebrated, that wants to be acknowledged, that wants to achieve the goals. It wants to get to the finish line and say, I know I want that for you, too, and I know it's going to happen, but it's just a matter of time and just feel that for a minute.

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And I feel that I'm like, Am I even cry right now? And so you're giving yourself that opportunity. Next, we want to begin to, after you've moved through that energy, feel the feelings till they're done being felt, which then in turn regulates your nervous system. It brings you back to a steady state within yourself. And then you recognize and you honor that.

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And then you decide, okay, do I have the belief that this is going to happen? Do I truly believe because a lot of times what this is helping to uncover are areas that we we maybe don't have that really strong belief in ourself, at least for me. This is what it uncovered with some areas where I was questioning, you know, and I had these expectations that it should have happened by now.

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So it's probably not going to happen. And I started to only focus on proof for that, because if we have that belief, that's what our mind looks for. So we want to do is we want to begin to look for evidence of whatever it is that you are living into or wanting to create. We want to look for evidence, look for wins.

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We want to look for it in other people. We want to look for it in our self. And so we get to take a step back and recognize that it's there if we choose to see it. And so we want to look for ways that we're winning. And that is it's a really potent practice. Keep in mind, you know, who doesn't want you to see that sort of stuff?

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You're saboteurs. So they're going to look and they're going to do their best to show you counter evidence. And so that's really important to remember, is that this is going to be something that we get to practice a lot as we begin to weaken the neural pathways that are where the saboteurs lived. And that's really what they are.

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They're neural pathways. They're patterns that we're programed as children. We get to prune those away as we fortify and strengthen other pathways in your brain, literally creating new brain cells, new brain pathways and new patterns. Right? We practice this. We weave this into your life until it becomes the tapestry of your life. And so it's important that we practice these.

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And so whenever you notice yourself in those contract of emotions, in those feelings of doubt or shame or guilt or whatever it is, is to really take a moment and pause and honor that feeling, honor that feeling as an opportunity. Right? Remember, it's a gift or an opportunity, and it can be both as an opportunity to turn towards yourself and begin to practice loving self-compassion.

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And as we begin to see that as an opportunity to cultivate even more self trust and self-awareness and self-belief and self worth that that is helping you to become the person that you get to be, to live into your vision. And the interesting, ironic thing is, is that these challenges are almost prerequisites for you to getting where you want to go in the way that is the most empowering and expansive possible.

00;26;57;22 - 00;27;22;18
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Because whenever you have these moments where you get pulled back in to these old patterns, it's showing you that the pattern exists. And so it's like my mum is she's a great crosshair and so she crochets awesome hats. I should have one to show you. But you know, when you are weaving something. And so she's crocheting and she'll look at it and she'll go back and she'll look and she'll notice where there was a glitch.

00;27;22;21 - 00;27;48;09
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And so she may just decide to go back if it's not too far back and she can undo it and redo it. So you you know, it looks smooth and even and like the other patterns. So that's essentially what we're doing is when we notice these glitches, we get to go back and almost go back in time, in a sense, because if we're going back to how we feel and when we've experienced this before in loving ourselves in that moment and also in this moment, we're recreating that pattern.

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We're smoothing it out, right? We're making it, you know, consistent with the other ways of being that are aligned to your vision. And so we're weaving these different tools into your life. We're weaving this awareness into your life. And so that's why, you know, all of this this life thing is essentially is yoga in action. And yoga is essentially a way of living when we live from a place of connection and awareness.

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And so what I wanted to share with you was that when you witness yourself feeling these moments or having these questions or feeling that shame spiral or the self-doubt spiral is to recognize it as an opportunity for evolution, as an opportunity for expansion, as an opportunity to go beyond where you're at now and truly practice and be who you say you are in that you get to show up the way you truly want.

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You get to choose in that moment, and sometimes we can catch it pretty quickly, which with time we we get more skilled at that. And I'm not going to lie. Sometimes we don't and we get spiraled into it and we're in it for a while and we're just like, Oh, oh, well, you know, and, and I get that in.

00;29;04;07 - 00;29;29;29
Speaker 1
Sometimes there's moments where we we want to go deep and all feel it, but it's really a matter of self-awareness, self-acceptance, And in those moments of putting these tools into practice, looking for evidence, nurturing yourself, speaking to yourself kindly, using your breathwork, doing your yoga, doing your shaking, whatever it is, as you're ultimately practicing self-love. And so in doing so, you're weaving these moments into your life.

00;29;30;01 - 00;29;47;23
Speaker 1
And so it becomes a practice not just on the yoga mat, but in life, because that's really what this is for, is helping you to become the version of yourself that your vision is calling you to be in, that you get to be to bring your vision to life. So we want to look at these moments as an opportunity, right?

00;29;47;25 - 00;30;09;18
Speaker 1
And that's the growth mindset aspect of it. And sometimes we catch ourselves and a lot of times it's often a lot easier to catch it in other people than ourselves. But we want to start to look at it from that place of discernment. And that's the wisdom of our soul, of our higher self, and that's the compassionate self-awareness that we get to begin to practice.

00;30;09;20 - 00;30;38;18
Speaker 1
And so again, that's where having these practices consistently starting your day from this place, getting grounded, getting centered, dropping in to how am I feeling today, What do I need to come back to that place of connected awareness, feeling happy and expansive within myself, and then throughout the day checking in with yourself. And when you notice these moments when the lotus flower has closed up on itself and everything feels tight, remember you're the lotus, everything feels tight.

00;30;38;20 - 00;31;05;17
Speaker 1
It's an opportunity to turn towards yourself. What do you need right now? Do we need a snack? Do we need a nap? Do you need a hug? Speaking to yourself like you would to a dear friend, to a child, to your doc. Right. Because that's ultimately what this is, is cultivating that willingness to love, no matter what the unconditional love that you so deserve.

00;31;05;20 - 00;31;32;02
Speaker 1
That is truly at the root of all of this. And so, yeah, you never knew it, right? Or maybe you do now, but personal development, fast track on steroids, entrepreneurship. It's going to pull everything up and throw it right in your face over and over until we're willing to do this sort of work. Right? And when we push through it and we bypass it, we miss the opportunity to heal.

00;31;32;04 - 00;31;52;18
Speaker 1
And that's a shame, really. But it's neither here nor there. And some people are into it, other people aren't. But if you're here, I bet you're into it a little bit because you're here to grow and you're here to evolve and you're here to do big things because you are purpose your powerhouse. So that's what I wanted to share with you today.

00;31;52;20 - 00;32;13;22
Speaker 1
And hey, if you want to learn more about the mental fitness framework and you want to find out what your top saboteur is, I would be curious to know as well, because I have a sneaking suspicion in the entrepreneur community. Actually, I it's not a suspicion. I have evidence that there's really consistent patterns in the entrepreneur community as to what the top saboteurs are, the ways that you self-sabotage.

00;32;13;24 - 00;32;35;24
Speaker 1
If you want to know what that is some medium because or comment below depending on where you're watching or listening to this because there's a really cool free assessment and I can give you some insights into ways that you may be getting tripped up, getting into those old, outdated patterns that are pulling you into those self-doubt, shame spirals that are part of the journey.

00;32;35;24 - 00;33;00;19
Speaker 1
Yes, but they are not places that we want to live. Right. But they will do our best to keep us there, because as we mentioned before, that is how they they hook us, right? They keep us there. They hijack us. And so it's really just a practice of curiosity and willingness to weave a new pattern, Right. Choose a different way and so that's what I wanted to share.

00;33;00;19 - 00;33;18;01
Speaker 1
So, yeah, if you want the free assessment, then some idea. I'd love to share that with you and talk it through. But until next time, thank you so much for learning to use your mind like the powerful tool that it is. Use your body by moving it on purpose so that you can show up as a purposeful powerhouse that you truly are taking care.

00;33;18;03 - 00;33;19;08
Speaker 1
Okay.

00;33;19;10 - 00;33;44;26
Speaker 2
Thank you so much for listening. I hope you really enjoyed this episode and got a lot out of it. Please let me know what landed for you by taking a screenshot and sharing your takeaways on your Instagram stories. Make sure to tag me at I am Megan Nolan for a shout out and future episodes and don't forget to grab all the goodies that we mentioned during the episode because you're going to love them.

00;33;45;03 - 00;33;52;11
Speaker 2
So all the links are in the show notes. So until next time, cheers to you. Living on purpose every day.