How To Build Unshakable Self Belief

Do you ever feel trapped by overthinking, hesitation, or self-doubt? All the while some people seem naturally confident, others struggle with second-guessing every decision....it can be frustrating!

But here’s the truth—self-doubt isn’t a personality trait, it’s a pattern. And the good news? You can break free from it.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into:

✅ The neuroscience of confidence – How anxiety, depression, and self-doubt rewire your brain

✅ Why self-doubt is a learned habit (and how to reprogram your mindset for success)

✅ How to stop second-guessing yourself & trust your instincts

✅ Daily confidence-boosting habits that rewire your brain for positivity & success

Want to mute the mental chaos and take control of your mind in just 6 minutes a day? Get the FREE Anxiety "OFF" Switch 3-Part Audio Series 👉 https://www.megan-nolan.com/offswitch

Please find the show notes below. Since it is a transcription there may be spelling errors and/or weird grammar. Ignore that and enjoy!

How to build unshakable
self-belief is what we
are discussing today on the Movement
Mind and Meaning podcast Mind Body
Tools to Thrive Beyond Anxiety and
Depression. I am your host Megan Nolan
and we are going to get into it because
this is a conversation that I've had many
times with myself and other people, how
some people just have this unshakable
self-belief and other people like myself.
Ourselves needed to grow
that skill set along the way. But before
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self belief and it's opposite I
guess. Or I was gonna say distant cousin
self doubt. Why is it that some people
just. Get on that self-belief train and
they're like unstoppable, right?So I'll
tell you where this came from. The other
day I was doing a really incredible
breath work practice. I love
breath work. It's something that I
include in a lot of my sessions. I do
everyday for myself and I
came out of the
practice with this deep knowing in
my soul that I am experiencing a
massive. Integration
and shifting within myself and a big
part of that is
deciding to no longer listen
to the lies of my mind at an even deeper
level because I've made that decision
years ago. But it's one of those things
that the lies of the mind, the protective
patterns that we talk about, the the
adaptive patterns and behaviors of
self-sabotage and you know, slowing
ourselves down and doubting ourselves.
Those are patterns that are learned and
we we begin to unwire and untether. From
those, but it's a practice, right?It's a
there's a peeling away and an even deeper
embodiment that happens over time
once you make that decision and you
continue to do the work. And so I came
out of the breath work practice and I was
just like vibrating all
sorts of good stuff and had that
realization that this has been a huge
component in. The up,
down, roundabout frustration of my
journey of many years ago, that
really was, I would say,
maybe a factor
that held me back because I would
often hear those
stories of my mind and you know, the
the permeating feeling of sadness and
really feel that sense of self-doubt
and limitation and believe it and take
it as truth. And I know that
it was part of the journey.
But if I can shift that for you, if I can
help you to have some realizations today
about how to cultivate self-belief. And
I'm, you know, it's a work in progress.
I'm not gonna lie. Like I'm I'm on the
train to to unshakable self-belief town.
Believe me, I'm like in the front seat.
I ain't the conductor, but I'm on the
train. Like, take me there. I want it.
But today we're gonna be talking about
how we can begin to do that, some
practices, some tools, some insights. So
yeah, it's this thing, you know, it's
this, this questioning ourselves, this
doubting ourselves, this wondering if I
should do it this way and should it have
been that way?And like it's a for
many of us, especially those of us that
navigate life accompanied by
anxiety and depression, it can feel like
a long road to self trust.
It can, right?And I think some people.
Whether or not they have those
challenges, I think some people through
their upbringing, through their, you
know, the the guidance and parenting that
they received, maybe some teachers and
some mentors, it was ingrained in them a
little bit younger, but for many of us.
Myself included, I feel like that those
clouds of self-doubt were like fogs
that I had to navigate through. It felt
like it just kept rolling in. You know,
if I would try to achieve something or go
after a goal and it didn't happen or I
would doubt myself or I would, you know,
stay really focused on all like for
example when I would lead and I still do
lead, you know, online events and be
looking at the numbers and if the opt-ins
were taking a long time to start or if
they weren't happening or that I was
nowhere near the numbers. You know, my
brain would immediately default to see
nobody's gonna sign up. What are you even
doing?Why?Why are you doing this?This is
so silly. What you're doing this again.
And you know, and that level of
negativity and focusing
in the direction I didn't wanna go, that
was the conditioned path, you know?And so
it was no wonder it felt really
frustrating because I was out there
taking the actions, but inside of my
head, I was like, see, nobody's gonna
sign up. I don't even know why you
bother, you know?And so.
It's like having a tug of war against
yourself, right?Like, hopefully you can
relate to this in some sense. Maybe it's,
you know, maybe it's your art or
relationships or whatever. But I would
say that, you know, over time the fog has
started to thin out a little bit and and
get a little lesser and lesser and
lesser. And through these practices,
particularly the ones that you're going
to start to learn inside the anxiety off
switch, will learn how to mute that
mental noise and
regain control because. It's
not that we are out of touch
with possibility. It's that we're
listening to these protective patterns of
the mind, the lies of limitation of the
mind and these patterns, these stress
responses, right of of defaulting into
anxiety or slipping down into sadness
that they come. Along with them, they
come with these stories, these struggle
stories. I call them of like, oh, it's
never going to work, you know, and or
what if it doesn't work or what if it
does work and what if I can't follow up
and you know, it can go in either
direction. But I think it's really
fascinating because I know that there's
some people that like legitimately are
like, yeah, I'm going to do it. If I
can't figure out a way, if if I don't see
the way, I'll figure one out. I'll just
figure it out as I go and and that is. An
interesting shift, right?And part of that
is, is a growth mindset that people have
that and that I've learned over the years
to really begin to practice and start to
see things through a different lens of,
OK, life is happening for us, right?Not
to us. How can we begin to look at things
from that place of center within ourself,
right?Like first and foremost, we want
to, you know, shift into safety. We want
to regulate ourselves so that we can have
access to the higher wisdom. So that we
can see it from a place of this is a a
gift, right?Or an opportunity. And
sometimes that comes pretty quickly. But
if it's a big awful thing or something
that's, you know, monumental to you, that
can come at a slower pace. I'm not
gonna lie, right?It's not necessarily
gonna happen right out of the gate
sometimes. But The thing is, is that it's
really important for us to remember that
we get to. Recognize that,
you know, start to hear those stories and
and if you tell, hear yourself telling
the same stories again and again and
again, or if you find yourself in that
frustrating pattern and you're like, this
is annoying. I just had like, why?Why
does this keep happening?Then we can
begin to use that as a cue, right?We
can begin to use that acute as a cue. We
can. Train ourselves to witness
that. And that's the level of
nonjudgmental self-awareness that is a
big component of what we do inside the
power pause movement that is so important
for us to cultivate. Because here's the
thing, and here's the thing, and I'm
going to talk a little bit about the
science, the science. Sorry,
I don't know why I say I have random
accents that I pull out of nowhere
sometimes. So here's
the interesting thing, right, is that,
you know, maybe some people are just born
with it. What was that commercial?Maybe
she's born with it. Maybe it's
Maybelline. I
don't know. Maybe. Maybe she's born with
it. Maybe it's mental health challenges.
Anyways, that wasn't as clever as I
thought it might be.
So quick little biology lesson. This is
your brain on stress, right when we are
experiencing. Stress and our if
our reaction to stress is anxiety.
When we're experiencing anxiety,
we're active in our amygdala, and the
amygdala is the part of your brain
responsible for detecting threats. And so
it's looking around, it's hyperactively,
overactively scanning for
danger. Whether that danger is real or
not is debatable,
right?Sometimes it very much is, and
sometimes it's. In our head, right. And
so here's the thing, what happens when
we're when we're active in the amygdala
and our brain is is looking for
solutions, it's looking for problem
solving, it's looking for the
outcome, it's looking to control the
situation. What it tends to do
is. Replay past mistakes,
right?Because it's gathering information
from the past to potentially predict the
future. It also likes to imagine worst
case scenarios so that we can be quote
UN quote prepared. So
this can make it difficult to trust
ourself, right?For obvious reasons.
If we're just going back to past mistakes
as reference points, you know, because
your brain's like, yeah, but remember
when that happened and you totally
screwed it up and you're like, but I
wanna believe in myself.
Yeah, but you screwed it up, you knowAnd
it's like, oh, OK, so again, we'll
talk about how this can, we can begin to
shift this and cultivate that unwavering
self belief. But I just want you to know
that. This is part of the wiring, right?
And so again, it's it's it's not a
fault. It's not a flaw. It's just
something that we can cultivate awareness
around. We can get curious. Oh, isn't
that interesting?My brain is wired to
seek solutions. It's wired to not want to
repeat mistakes. It's wired to avoid
problems, right?And this is a survival
bias. So this is, you know,
scientifically called the
negative attention bias. And so it means
that we are programmed, we're hardwired.
To find the faults and the flaws and the
problems and the mistakes and the
potential issues and the potential
threats, right. That's what our brain is
hyper fixated on, especially if we are
active in the amygdala, especially if our
if our nervous system is in that fight or
flight state, right. It's very attuned to
survival. So this is important because
what we're doing here is, is we're
fixating on all of those things and
because of that we
ignore. Signs of success.
We ignore that
win that you had, that ability to have a
great conversation or to be kind to
people, whatever it is, right?And so this
is The thing is that when this is
practice, what we practice, we become
what we practice, we become, right?And so
your brain hardwires this. And if it's
fixated on the faults and the flaws and
the failures, it can really
wire the brain to expect that
to happen again. Right. And if we're
expecting that to happen and that's
hardwired in, it can reduce our
belief in our self or our self efficacy,
our belief in our capability, right.
And so again, this is something to be
aware of and say, oh, isn't that
interesting?You know, I've wired that
pattern in and believe me, that was
something that, you know, I was very
wired to. I was very much in that go
for it, goal achieving, but then. When I
didn't get there, or if I didn't get
there fast enough, you know, the brain
just can't win. If I didn't get there, or
if I didn't get there fast enough, or if
I could have done it better in my brain's
perspective, that's what I focused on,
right?I was very much in the gap. So
there's a really awesome book called The
Gap and the Gain by, I think Doctor Dan
Sullivan and. Joseph Hardy, but
don't quote me on that. I know for sure
the book is called The Gap in the Game,
and that's what he talks about, is how
many of us that are very driven,
ambitious people have this tendency to
focus on the gap. The gap being, you
know, the distance between where we are
and where we want to be compared to the
game is the reflection from where we are
to where we were. OK, you get the
difference. So the gap is where we tend
to get into that negative critical voice.
Self-doubt is when we are in a place and
we're like, uh, but I want to be over
there. I wanted to have done it better. I
wanted to do it faster. I should have
done this. I wanted to achieve that.
That's the gap. You can feel that that
would cause tension and contraction,
right?It can cause that that, oh man, I
didn't do that great. Oh, even though I
did it, I could have done it better. And
that shrinking feeling. Right. Whereas
the gain is when we are in a place and
whether we got to the goal or not isn't
significant in this perspective. The
perspective is that where you are now is
not where you were, meaning you have
learned, you have grown, you have
evolved. That is a very
expansive state. That's a very
open-hearted space. That's a place of
possibility and creation and actually
releases a different cascade of
neurochemicals. So when we're in the
game, we release dopamine, we release
oxytocin, we release serotonin
because we're we're up and we're ready
and we're going for it. Whereas when
we're in the gap, it releases cortisol
and you know that cortisol is associated
with stress, right?So that's
really interesting. So it just feeds
that. So that's a decision, right?It's a
perspective. It's a perspective shift
that we can begin to practice. So
that's how anxiety can undermine it. So
let's talk about the opposite side of
that, which is the other part of our
focus here on this show is when
we are feeling, when we're experiencing
sadness, our brain is
affected more so in the prefrontal cortex
and the hippocampus. So the hippocampus
is part of. Our motivation
and our learning and our emotional center
in our brain. And so when we
are experiencing prolonged periods of
sadness or depression, these areas can
tend to shrink and we start to see less
activities in these areas. And so this
can lead to lower motivation, right?We
feel like, uh, what's the point?I don't
want to do it. It's not going to workout
anyway. Or we we use our
past to attempt to predict the future,
right?Because our brain is trying to do
that. And so that can cause some
distortion in our thinking. Also it can
reduce levels of dopamine, which as we
just talked about, dopamine is related to
get up and go and motivation. And
so when we have that decreased
level of dopamine, lower motivation, a
distortion in our thoughts, we
tend to experience a a decreased belief
in possibility, right. It's that, I don't
know that that again that really
contractive heavy. Doubtful,
angry, regretful, frustrated
set of feelings that can come when we're
feeling sad. And so
again, place your hand on your heart and
give yourself some compassion because
this is what's happening inside your body
if you're feeling sad, when you're
feeling sad, if that happens for you. So
give yourself some compassion on this and
some fear self compassion and just know
that that's again, this is part of the
wiring of our body. And now that you
know about this, you can begin to shift
it, right?And there's common humanity in
this, because this is the human wiring.
And how can you be kind to yourself?
Because if this is what's happening
inside your brain and inside your body at
the level of your nervous system, if
you're experiencing sadness, then it's
blocking your ability.
To to get up and do things and to get up
and go and to feel like, you know, it's
worth trying. And so that's why it can
feel like impossible to do even
the smallest of tasks when you're feeling
sad or depressed. And that's the
science, right?And so I hope that was
insightful for you because for me it was
like, oh wow, it literally
can feel like you're, you know, pulling
the village up the hill backwards when
you're feeling sad to get up and do
anything. And that's. That's why, right?
And so again, it's really important to be
compassionate. And so the interesting
thing here that we can begin to talk
about a little bit is that what we
want to begin to
cultivate so that we can move towards
having more of that unshakable
self-belief is for those of us
that aren't just born with that naturally
optimistic, positive outlook, right
is. Beginning to look for the ways
that you are winning and look for the
little incremental steps,
right. And that's the game perspective.
Remember going back to the gap in the
game, we want to look for these
shifts and that's one thing that's common
with people that have a really strong
self belief is that they just
think differently. Right. We they
psychologists call this, I mentioned it
earlier. Psychologists call this the the
growth mindset. It's that perspective
shifting. It's being in the game, looking
for the wins, looking for the lessons.
And it is actually linked to higher,
higher levels of dopamine, higher levels
of resilience, the ability to bounce back
from challenges. So not only is this, you
know, a a shift in mindset,
but it's a shift in the body. It's a
shift in the level of the nervous system
because what we're doing there is we are.
Coming to a regulated state, we're
shifting the level of cortisol being
released. We're increasing the levels of
dopamine because we're taking that
different perspective because you're
widening the lens, right?You're looking
for more options, you're looking for more
possibility. And so this is
interesting because people that have this
growth mindset or they train because this
is trainable. This is a a a
skill set that I've learned that you can
learn too. Or maybe you have, right?And
and maybe you know about this already,
but are you practicing it right?That's
and how deeply are you practicing it and
are oops. And are you practicing it with
yourself?That's hello.
That's the real kicker because you know,
it's really easy sometimes for us to
reframe setbacks for our friends, but
with ourselves, you know, we tend to make
it this defining moment, this like, well,
it's never going to work, you know. It's
we're we're a trip, aren't we?And so
you know this, this strong self belief or
the strong self-efficacy. People tend to
reframe setbacks as opportunities and
temporary, right?Not not make it who you
are and not define yourself by the
win or the loss. It's the one that keeps
going. You're the one that keeps trying.
And then that was a huge part of the
revelation after the breath work was look
at how many times you've gotten
back. Up.
Look at how many times you've tried
again. Look at how many
times you have challenged yourself to
learn something else. And I'm saying this
to you, darling, beautiful one
listener watcher, because I was saying it
to myself and I was like, you're right. I
have gone up a lot of times,
weeping like a little baby. I'm here
for it. Tears are cathartic. And I
was just in that place of
recognition. Like, man, this life thing
ain't easy, OK?But
look at you. You have another day and
you're out there and you're doing it.
You're getting after it. You know,
whatever that looks like, right?And
especially those of us that have these
challenges, it's like, oh, man. We all,
we've all got our pack to bear, right?We
all pack our bag and start to walk up the
mountain that is life. But some of us
have some rocks in there.
We, a lot of us pick up more rocks along
the way and just load the pack up and
maybe you put a pack on the front and on
the back and you know, and it's like what
I hope that this is giving you is the
knowledge of, OK, we can take some of
these stones out of here, right?We can
take the pack off and rest for a while.
And that's what power pauses help you to
do. And you're going to learn all about
that in the in the free audio series. And
so really coming back to that
awareness of ofIt's so
important that we just, we witness
yourself in the process and in this
journey that is life, right?And and
it's up, down and all around. It ain't no
straight path. It's all sorts of
convoluted. And so again,
it's really how you're showing up, how
you're showing up the you that you're
being in the moment, right?It's not what
you're doing, but how you're doing it.
And that's really why it's so important
to me to redefine success, to
really the the true marker of success is
how are you feeling?How are you living?
How are you showing up to each and every
moment?Because that's really what
matters. And it is really the driving
force. And you know, for many Uber, duper
successful people, they will cite that as
the secret is your energy, your
frequency, your belief. Right. And so
it's really this moment to moment
practice of awareness, self-awareness,
self-compassion. And so the beautiful
thing is that, you know, none of this is
fixed. The good stuff and the bad stuff.
Hey, wait a second. You said it was good
news. Well, here's the thing, right?
Nothing's permanent. Everything's
changing. That's the only constant in our
life. And so, yeah. If it's good,
you can make it better by this practice.
If it's not great and you're not loving
it, you can change it. That's what
neuroplasticity is. You are in charge.
You are such a powerful being. And The
thing is, is that when you
mute the mental chaos of the mind and you
come to that place of stillness within
yourself, the depth of your soul, the
place of deep connection to the wisdom
within you, the truth of who you are.
And you live from that place,
you show up from that place, you go back
to that place. That's your
power. That's
really the work of the
yoga practice, the work of martial arts,
the work of many different wisdom
traditions is a return to the knowing of
who you are and to your
wholeness. And not living from the
stories of the mind, the struggle
stories, those protective patterns.
Because we practice them so much, we
think they're who we are, but they're not
who you are. They're learned behaviors.
That means you can unlearn those
behaviors. That's neuroplasticity. So
when you practice these tools, when you
learn these things, when you listen to
this podcast, when you join the flip the
anxiety switch, then you are
giving yourself that reminder.
When you are doing that, you are making
shifts at the deepest level of your
being, and it's changing who you are and
how you feel and how you show up.
And that's the magic, right?And So what
we want to do here is
cultivate the ability to
look for the ways that you
are winning. So.
This is going to be our power pause for
today. I want to give you a tool that I
would love for you to practice every
day. It's so simple
and it's you can do it when you
are wrapping up the end of your work day
or when you are laying down and you're
all snuggly in your bed, whatever you
want. But I would love for you to
practice what I call ways that I
won, ways that I won.
And what this is, is you look for five
ways that you won today and you might
have won a game. OK, like that's an
obvious one. But what I'm talking about
here in the form of a power pause is that
dropping into your body and coming from
the place and the perspective of the
truth of who you are, of your heart, of
your soul, of the goodness, the magic
that is you, not what the mind tells you
you are, but the soul level essence of
you and looking back over your day.
And looking for ways that you won.
And they might be little tiny
ways that you won, like you were
in a hurry to get to work and somebody
let you in. It might be
a great session that you led
inside a community and you just.
Were in flow and it was coming out of you
and you were like, wow, that was good.
You know that that might be that level of
winning. It might be a lovely meal that
your partner prepared or a yummy snack
that you bought at the grocery store.
Like look at the full spectrum here.
We're not necessarily looking for like, I
want $1,000,000. I would love for you to
put that on your list and I pray that
that's on your list. Mine too. Yes,
please. So again, it can be
anything because what you're doing here
is you're training your mind. To look
for the flowers, say what now?
Yeah, and then you might be winning cause
you got flowers. What I'm saying here is
the saying, which you've probably heard
me say cause I love this one cause this
is the synopsis of what we're talking
about and what so much of this work is
about is the Buddha said in the
field of 1000 flowers,
what we remember is the snake.
And now you know why that's true from a
biological perspective and also from
a nervous system perspective, but
also from a self-development
and a performance perspective is that
that's why, right?We tend to fixate on
the faults and the flaws. So I want you
to look for the flowers. I want you to
look for the ways that you
had a happy moment, that you had
a you told a funny joke that.
That made you feel like, oh, OK,
I'm doing it. I'm doing it. I'm, I'm
doing this life thing. I'm doing OK. Or
I'm doing freaking amazing. Or God damn
look at me go wherever you're at, right?
Some days you're going to be like, five
things. Really. Oh shit this is going to
be a hard one. And some days you're going
to be like, don't stop at 5. No need to
stop at 5, but at least get to five, OK?
That's your power pause for this week.
It's a little different than our other
power pauses because normally power
pauses have some movement or some breath,
but this one is so potent because what
we're talking about today is really.
Winning the battle and getting to that
place of unshakable self-confidence,
winning the battle over self-doubt. So if
you're just jumping into this power
pause, this is part of a full episode of
the Movement, Mind and Meaning podcast
where we go deep into this whole topic.
But if you are watching this whole
episode and you're like, I want to know
what she was just talking about. This
one, maybe not so much because a lot of
times it has movements to it. So this one
maybe you don't need to see the video for
it, but just know that for each of the
episodes that I have a power pause. That
we do have just the video and so you may
have found me that way as well. So hi,
hello. So regardless of how you got
here, if you've been here from the
beginning or you're just here for the
power pause, we're going to go deep into
all of this inside the Flip Your Anxiety
off switch audio training series. So make
sure to get signed up for that because it
is amazing. The feedback so far has been
incredible. It's totally free. Three
parts, 15 minutes each. Literally.
The shift. The shift. Not just of how you
think, but of who you be. So make
sure to grab that. So let's
wrap this up with a little bow, shall we?
What are some of the ways that you have
won today?And you're here. So
Bing Gold star #1, right?Gold star #1.
That's pretty incredible. So here's the
thing. Self doubt
isn't fixed. Neither is self belief.
Right. We just talked about that.
Everything can be changed. It's not a
personality trait, it's a learned
behavior. And it's
something that maybe if you're like me,
you practiced a little bit or a lot. And
so it's something that you can begin to
shift because just like all of these
other patterns of behavior,
it's changeable. It's plastic, meaning,
you know, you can melt it and change it.
That's what neuroplasticity is. Because
if it was learned, it can be unlearned.
And so just give yourself some of that
beautiful self-compassion and and know
that now you know why some people
have a tendency to have that gold star
standard of self-belief and other people
like me and maybe like you
get to practice that right?Just like
you get to practice. Attempting to be a
tree in Vrikshasana when you're standing
on one foot and you got your knee out to
the side and I'm like, OK, now arms up,
make it look like a branch. You get to
practice it like you practice on the yoga
mat. You get to practice it like you
practice learning how to drag. These are
skills that you can learn,
but they must be learned from that place
of compassionate curiosity and from a
place of. Deep knowing and trust and
safety in your nervous system. Because
otherwise, because this is a pattern that
has been practiced for a while and is
ingrained, it's a protective pattern. So
just know precursor.
That's not the word I want, but heads up.
There we go. I was like, there's
something I want to say. Heads up is that
your brain is going to be like, yeah, but
you know, remember all those other faults
and flaws and mistakes you've made
because that's silly. I don't know if you
want to do that, but now you know why it
wants to do that, right?And so this is
one of those things that your brain might
give you a little push back on because
it's like, oh, perceiving a threat,
attempt at an expansion in progress.
Stop them from doing this crazy
self-belief thing. No, noMake them feel
like shit and make them doubt themself
again. OK. And so that's what happens,
right?And it's, you know, I don't know if
your brain has a loudspeaker like that,
but mine definitely did. But now I know
how to mute the mental chaos. So hello. I
am grateful to. Share these tools with
you. I would love for you to
come over and grab the Flip Your Anxiety
off switch because it is a really fun and
playful and powerful
offering that I'm grateful to put out
into the world. And so that is everything
I have for you today. I hope that you
laughed. I hope that you felt seen. I
hope that you feel like OK.
Wow. Yeah, this is something I can
practice, right?This is something that
you can learn. And, you know, not making
yourself wrong or faulted or flawed for
it. Because as you now know, that's
counterproductive. But it's might be what
your brain wants to do. We can't judge
ourself for judging ourself. Hi. Do you
see the irony?
But believe me,
it happens. But be on the be on
the alert for it. OK, so. We want
to use some of that vigilance that many
of us who have anxiety, hyper vigilance,
looking for all the, you know, potential
problems. We want to learn to use some of
that vigilance on the sneaky
tricks of the mind, right?That's
the that's the opponent of all opponents.
I'll finish with this, the opponent of
all opponents that wisdom, traditions,
cultures around the world. Understand
that our mind is it's a
really incredible tool. When you learn
how to use it, excuse me, when you learn
how to use it, when you learn how to
intentionally focus it and recognize that
you're not your thoughts, right?You are
the witnessing consciousness behind the
thoughts. You are loving awareness. But
when the mind is running the show,
everything we've been talking about for
the last 33 minutes and every other
episode, you now know why.
But here's the beautiful thing is that
these are practices, the tools that
you're going to learn inside the series,
the lessons that you learned today. These
are practices, just like any other
practice that you can begin to learn to
harness the power of your mind
so that you can learn to use it as the
tool that it is, so that it doesn't run
you around and pull you upside down and
sideways all the way till Tuesday and
then back till Thursday, because it's
just going to do that if you don't.
Learn to intentionally focus
it, to align it to your vision, to tap
into the wisdom within you, to learn to
recognize when you need a break so that
you're not just running on fumes, too
scared to stop, because what if it all
falls apart?That's
a story of the mind and a technique of
self-protection when we are experiencing
these high stress or this anxiety or
sadness. And so it's learning to
cultivate that level of awareness so that
you recognize, whoa, hold the phone.
We're doing the thing. We're doing the
thing and call it out. No,
Megan told me that I can learn to
believe. You can cultivate this
self-belief in yourself. You can do it. I
believe in you. I do. And I'm not being
cheeky. I do. Because trust me when I
say, and I know you hear this about so
many other things, but trust me when I
say if someone that had such
deep, limiting, almost
crippling. Self-doubt
me has learned step
by step, breath by breath, day by day,
launch by launch, e-mail by e-mail,
podcast by podcast, speaking by speaking
engagement. If I have learned to
cultivate belief in myself and come from
that place of crippling, defeating
self-doubt, then you can learn to do
it too.
I feel like I want to end the episode
there, but it would be a little abrupt.
But it was so good.
So good. It's true. I'm not going to say
more because I don't want to steal from
the energy of that statement. Just know
that you can. I love you so much.
I hope you have a beautiful day. Make
sure to sign up for the free series.
Share it with a friend. Please, please
I know that you know people. They may not
come out and say, well, I don't know if I
believe in myself, but you will hear them
saying stuff like. I'm just having a
hard time with this. I really wish. Why
do I always screw it up?They say stuff
like that. And you're as a friend, you're
like, oh, come on, don't say that. That's
mean, you know?And that's somebody that
might want to listen to this show. And I
would so appreciate you sharing it with
them. So all the love, sending you all
the love. And I will hear you, see you,
feel you, hang out with you, you hang out
with me in the next episode. I never know
what to say there, so I'm going to work
on that. But. Please let me know what
landed for you. It would really make my
heart so happy. Have a beautiful day. See
you soon. Take care.